Freaking Rebecca...

I'm a bit sensitive towards friends of the guy I'm seeing. I was in a relationship once, a very serious one, but his friends from back home hated me. I'm a goody-goody with a propensity for beer drinking; they're worthless, lazy, waste-of-space druggies. I didn't like their environment and I didn't like my boyfriend at the time when he was in that environment. So every time we were with those friends, we'd fight. All his other friends loved me, and when we broke up, his fraternity became closer to me than him. He hated that and hated me for it. I loved it.

Anyways, those guys from back home hated me so much, they'd go out of their way and try to break us up. One time they drove and hour and a half to where my boyfriend and I lived and went to our neighborhood bars. The guys would introduce themselves to girls as my boyfriend and would give out our apartment phone number to the girls. I'd come home from work and listen to our answering machine and it was full of girls calling the guy they met at the bar the other night.

He never got mad at his friends for doing that, and when he finally broke up with me, he said it was because his friends from back home hated me. I realized then that you can never come between a guy and his friends, that, given the choice, he will always pick his friends over you.

I know that the automatic response to this is that I wouldn't want to be with a guy who would pick those douchebags over me anyways. And it's true, now, but that doesn't mean it didn't really hurt when I went through it.

I'm not used to people not liking me. I'm a very harmless person who will take a lot of shit from someone before I get upset. Like I said, I'm a goody-goody with a propensity for beer drinking. When I do do something stupid, people dismiss it saying, "Oh that's just Sarah, you know how she is." They'll laugh it off and then laugh at me for the next week.

Rebecca, I think, felt threatened by me. Her boyfriend and I got along very well and I got him drunk the first night I met him by sharing my flask with him. I thought I was careful to be respectful of her -- when he asked for my number to call me the next day to set me up with Christopher, I said he didn't need it, to just tell Rebecca to call me because she had my number.

This is why I don't have any girlfriends. You scorn one, not even intentionally, and she'll never forgive you for it. Rebecca didn't give me a chance to know that I'm harmless. Unbeknownst to me, a mutual friend sent her an e-mail on my behalf, reiterating that I was sorry and I didn't know what I did to make her not call me back, and saying she got to know me and that I really am a cool person. She got no response either. Christopher also told me once that he would do some damage control, but I've been afraid to follow through on that and ask him what happened.

To be honest, after all of this drama, I really don't want to be friends with her anyway, but I would like it if I wasn't ostracized anymore. She is Christopher's best friend's girlfriend. She hates me, so Maddy can't like me by approximation. Rebecca lives with Maddy's sister, who is dating another mutual friend of Maddy and Christopher, so they can't like me by approximation either. Freaking incestuous circle. All these people on Rebecca's "side" could prevent Christopher and I from taking off even before we start, although I don't think he is a person to dismiss someone based on his friends. He'll just keep doing what he's currently doing, keeping these two worlds separate. But for a relationship to work, we'll have to eventually circulate with each other. I even think if he put his foot down, Maddy and Rebecca would give me another chance. It all depends on whether Christopher likes me enough to do that.