~Monday, June 18, 2012

Team up

I was talking with one of Abraham's teammates from his other kickball league. It's not uncommon for people to play on multiple leagues. I had played on two myself last season.

He told me his teammates scolded him for not bringing me to the games.

"I sort of thought that was you doing your own thing with your friends," I said.

"No, I want you there."

That's the difference between Abraham and all of the boyfriends. He wants me with him. While he's out with his friends, while he watches sports. My presence is not a hindrance or a burden.

I offer to go home if perhaps I thought I spent too many nights at his place, if my geriatric dog has too many accidents, or if the game is on. He always tells me he wants me with him.

So I was at his game and talking to one of his teammates.

"How long have you been together?" she asked.

"About eight months."

"Have you guys talked about living together yet?"

"No. We're not there yet and I'm not sure that's something I'm interested in doing." I left out the part where I did that before and it was such a monumental disaster.

"Yeah, I don't want to live together before marriage either," she said. "Have you said the I love yous yet?"

"Nope. We're still waiting on that too."

"That's so refreshing," she commented. "To hear about a couple taking their time. It seems like everyone is in such a rush."

I beamed with pride. It felt good to hear I was doing something right.

9 comments:

AmericanBridget (Jones) said...

I love this post one hundred times over...

heisschic said...

me too.

Brittany said...

She's right, it is pretty refreshing to see a couple not rushing into things. I am a rusher, and wish I could learn to not. I am trying.

Je m'appelle Danielle said...

I like that you guys are taking it at your own pace. Besides, you show each other your love anyway, words feel good to hear, but the actions are what matter.

I'm so jelly!

ramblingsofanorthernlass.com said...

It's something special when you both feel secure enough not to rush.

Beam away Sarah, you deserve this :)

Peach said...

8 months is such a great time, long enough but nowhere near long enough, if you see what I mean. happy beaming, it sounds just perfect xx

Me said...

Impressed. I am not a rusher but 8 months I could not do :) You are a good place in life for sure to be comfortable where you are and let things evolve naturally.

The Mad Inscriber said...

All the past mistakes lead you to learn to do it right when it is right.

Charlotte Klein said...

I didn't realize you and Abraham are together for eight months. Bryan and I started dating around the same time.

You ARE doing everything right. The problem lies in comparing our relationships with where everyone else is in theirs. It's so important to take your time with these things; if you both like each other and plan on staying together, why rush anyway?

You are right where you need to be, girly.

 

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