~Tuesday, July 09, 2013

Quirkyalone

One of the blogs I've been reading since the inception of my own blog is [Miscellany], written by a woman I only know as M or Mez. She is wonderful. She sketches comics. She has excellent taste in books and movies. And she lives in Australia, which sounds deeply exotic to this American.

In 2008 she posted about a book titled Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics. And because she recommended it, I bought it. The author Sasha Cagen describes the quirkyalone:

We are the puzzle pieces who seldom fit with other puzzle pieces. Romantics, idealists, eccentrics, we inhabit singledom as our natural resting state. In a world where proms and marriage define the social order, we are, by force of our personalities and inner strength, rebels.

For the quirkyalone, there is no patience for dating just for the sake of not being alone. We want a miracle. Out of millions, we have to find the one who will understand.

Quirkyalones are not just women. And they aren't asexual. They aren't people who never leave the apartment. They are romantics who don't settle.

I don't think I ever was a quirkyalone. I was really good at dating for the sake of dating. I think true quirkyalones have this peace about being single that I never had.

The book is as quirky as the movement. Pages are filled with bios of other quirkyalones and sketches. There is advice for online dating, what to do when your friend becomes coupled up (Vent! But not to the person in the relationship!), and how to go to the movies alone. It's just a great little book for those who inhabit singledom as their natural resting state.

If you think you might be a quirkyalone and would like to win this book, leave a comment!

20 comments:

M said...

ha! how funny - I was just thinking of this book the other day.

And thank you! xx

Amber said...

I want to win this book!

Bathwater said...

I am such a Quirky aloner.

Danielle said...

That's me, Qurkyalone.

I don't know how someone needs a 'how-to' on going to the movies alone. You just go. Its like, "Oh, I want to see World War Z, what time does it start? What time is it now? Okay cool" and that should be the end of it.

I will have to check out that blog though!

LMW said...

This sounds like one of my best friends. He is always trying to define himself, this sounds just right.

Tiffany said...

Oh, I love this description!! Sounds like a great book!

~Tiffany

katielookingforward.com said...

Sounds great! And I always love knowing what blogs other people like!

Diary of Why said...

I'll bite. :)

Smurfette said...

Would love to check out this book. :)

preciousandpriceless said...

pretty sure this may be my category. Quirkyalone.

leddy said...

I need all the help I can get to help me navigate this singledom!! There are too many movies that I'm missing out on!!!

AfterGirl said...

This is my story and I would love to win this book. I am about to be 56 years old and have never been married. People think any number of things bit I have never heard of this "quirky alone" but think it describes me to a t.

Angela said...

This is me (quirky aloe), although, for some years there, I *didn't* leave the apartment. ;) I would daydream about having a relationship (healthy), but I didn't feel the need to be dating just for the sake of it.

In the past few years, something changed, after I met the one that flipped my lid (I don't know why: I no longer see one attractive thing about him, inside or out). I wanted so badly to be loved, and felt like I was running out of time. having been rejected since then, and just feeling like I'm old, and unattractive, and unlikely to find someone that I like and am attracted to - I gave up. Especially after yet another guy tried to cheat with me, and then all of the stuff with my sister and her now-husband (history of his hitting on me, there). I'm disgusted. I was just reminded of everything that had me feeling much better alone.

I can relate to her most recent post, too. :( I find that I'm throwing myself in at the deep end at times, as I should have been all along, because I feel like I can barely breathe anymore. I don't remember the last time I was actually happy, for more than an hour or two that surprised me out of nowhere.

musingsfromtheashes said...

Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! :)

Neha said...

I would love to read it!

Jessica said...

I definitely fit this - thanks!

Miss Chevious said...

I am DEFINITELY a Qurkyalone. I just never had a word for it. If anyone deserves this book, it's me! :)

Newsha Fardmanesh said...

Finally a word for what I am.

friffy said...

yes please

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