~Tuesday, December 05, 2006

Where the hell are all the normal people?

I just received this IM from Married Work Guy:

Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.


Indiana said...

LOL...I'm sorry, but you are weaving a pretty tangled web, and for some reason I think it's funny that for once it's not me :-) ~sorry~

Miss Natalie said...

I'm with Indy on this one. I find it hilarious. If he likes the little secret feeling.. you know what i'm thinking ;-)

AT said...

Do you have writing on your forehead, or maybe some strange weirdo attracting pheromone?

Anonymous said...

hahaha :-) Just be careful lah :)


Anonymous said...

It's such a frickin' hard place to be stuck in. The one side of you saying, "just give in to your feelings and go for it. It will be fun and... and... and I just want to! I don't need an explanation!" Then the other side of you going, "the grass isn't always greener on the other side. I know EXACTLY what is waiting for me on the other side if I go ahead with this."

Nobody can tell what is the right thing to do or not in this case. Your dating/relationship decisions are your own. But a couple of questions to ask yourself...

Would I like being in the role of the "other woman"?
Could I handle my part of the responsibility if his marriage breaks up?
Would I like myself very much if I did sleep with him, knowing that it's more about the thrill of the chase, wanting what you can't have, etc.?
Is anything GOOD going to come out of this?

I don't know Sarah... I'm kind of right there with Adam at this point. Part of what is helping me keep my feelings at bay is I am continually asking myself, "what would I tell you if you were my best friend"? Be your own best friend, then take your own advice, whatever that may be.

No matter what, just keep yourself safe. Physically, mentally, emotionally. You're too good for the games and bullshit that come with being the other woman. But I also know how hard it is to fight that temptation, to say "fuck it" regardless of the outcome. So just... go with your gut. You've been doing a damn fine job of it so far!!!

M said...

oh no. I think up until now you can get away with it not having been explicit and quite innocent - but um..it's sort of getting to the stage where you have to decide whether you're going to keep 'weaving that pretty tangled web' that indy is talking about.

I mean obviously he's the world's biggest creep - but you need to decide now if you want to creep it up with him or completely cut him out. I don't think there is a middle ground anymore. This is your crossroads hon.

Sarah said...

Indy- I think you're giving me too much credit. I haven't done anything outside of... showering regularly! Brushing my teeth! Speaking when spoken to! :)

Natalie- Yes, what exactly is this secret feeling?

AT- This is what I get for Gonzo being my favorite Muppet. :)

Swagato- Yes, laugh at my expense! lol!

RMP- No, I could never be a dirty mistress. You're right, I am too smart for that.

M- *Sigh* I really thought I was in the clear on this one. He is making me uncomfortable with these monologues. Crap.

Walter said...

Dear MWG,
Letting Sarah know about your "Secret Feelings" no longer makes them a secret you douchebag! Just because Sara is polite, and has an over developed sense of social charity does not mean she really wants to knock your boots.

Please be polite to Sarah and show her the same respect she's giving you by encouraging her to find someone who's stable and not married like you are, and quit creeping her out by telling her things like, "I don't know what I want from you" when in fact it's tattooed on your forehead, scumbag!

Have a nice day.


Buttons said...

oh god. married men - a nononononono definately. if he can mess a wife around this much then he can mess you around ten times as much. tell him he will get nothing more than friendship from you

Anonymous said...

Walter: LOVE the comment!!!

M said...

I just think it's unfair that HE has now put YOU in a position where you are responsible. Why? Because if you say nothing you're encouraging it by default. And if you say something you risk losing the "friendship". You're totally in this lose-lose situation. You could totally ignore it I suppose maybe that's the best way, I don't know. This is the perfect example of why I think there is no such thing as an innocent flirt from marrieds. The problem is that I think we could all see this one coming.

HE'S really done you a disservice. HE'S the married party. What's the point of him writing you this email saying such things? To express his feelings? "not sure what I want from you" If the feelings were so secret he wouldn't have talked about them - they'd be a ..secret! He's totally being manipulative and putting the ball in your court by 'putting it out there' too see how you react. You're single, I don't think it's fair that you have to take responsibility for the fact that he's an idiot but he's stitched it up so that somehow that's how it goes.

Phil said...

What an ingrating little twerp.

I think the only reply you can give him is "Dude that was not cool" and refuse to be engaged with 'why can't we talk about it'.

Sarah is there something in the water over there? You're having a terrible run with idiots.

Anonymous said...

What a complete and total nob! And I suppose that his wife doesn't understand him the way you do? Be careful!

Sarah said...

Walter- I'll be sure to forward your message on :)

Buttons- He already knows that. One can only say it so many times.

RMP- Me too!

M- I know! I was beginning to get upset because everyone is acting like this is MY fault. Hello? I'm not the married one!

He'll back off for another few weeks and then try again. Seems to be his MO.

Phil- I told him he wasn't being fair with me. He agreed, but it still didn't stop him.

I'm switching to gin :)

Cath- I haven't heard that yet, but I'm waiting for it!

Anonymous said...

Aaahhh the secret fling...Stay away from him. He is setting a trap!!!

Kaylen said...

...or set your own trap...

(he started it!)

adam b said...


IM sure is a bitch sometimes.


xx,adam b.~~(single, and proud of it, since birth)


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