~Tuesday, February 03, 2009

Making My Way

My mom made a friend for me. There is a woman at my mom's work who my mom really gets along with and they discovered they had daughters the same age that live in the same city who both enjoy knitting and sewing. So they passed our numbers along and I called (er, messaged through Facebook) and set up a lunch date with a visit to a local yarn shop. The first meeting was awkward—a bit like a blind date—but we kept calling each other and kept making plans and after the third time around, it seemed like a normal friendship, not a set-up by our mothers.

So now, instead of spending Friday nights on my couch with my craft books and materials, I'm sitting on her couch with my craft books and materials. I feel like this dramatically drops the loser quotient. One: I'm being social without actually having to go out. PJs is still an acceptable wardrobe. Well for her because it's her house; I have yet to cross that line. Two: I have living proof that I'm not the only single girl in my age bracket who isn't out drinking, but engaging in hobbies. And three: she has a subscription to crafting magazines and I don't, so I feel like I'm not the geekiest person out there.

Because I made the effort to network, I had another opportunity come my way. I was out to lunch with friends at and all-you-can-eat sushi buffet the other Friday and my friend brought her brother and the brother's girlfriend. Brother's Girlfriend asks me if I like to knit. I flashed her my scarf and she invited me to a once-a-week group stitch and bitch that knits for charity. So now I'm meeting people with my own interests and doing something to help others. Another reason I'm not feeling like a loser anymore.

Also, at the same sushi lunch, a guy friend revealed he had two front-row seats to Cirque du Soleil and would I like to go with him? I clapped in response, never having been to any form of circus before. It was fucking fantastic.

19 comments:

Blue soup said...

Was this a while ago? I read the word "single" in there. Am I reading it wrong? (Happy to be wrong!!)

Sarah said...

Single, as in not married. I must have been doing my taxes too long and confused the meaning!

dawn said...

You're going to love (LOVE!!!) Cirque du Soleil.

I was born and bred in Montreal -- from where Cirque also originated and always practiced -- but it took until I was 41, married, and living in Connecticut to go see them. I should never have let it take that long. What a show!

J said...

Yay for new friends! I have always wanted to see Cirque...enjoy!

kristinblakely said...

1. stitch and bitch? THAT IS AWESOME.

2. cirque de soleil is wonderful! i went senior year in high school instead of going to prom! (HA.) can't wait to hear your thoughts!

Diane Mandy said...

Cirque is THE best! Prepare to be inspired!

Curvy girl said...

You are totally not the only "single" girl in the world not going out and partying. I don't knit, but I do make cards on Friday nights. Yea for us in being different and being happy doing it!

Lpeg said...

Sounds great. When I had friends up here (before they all got smart and moved away), we had a Monday night stitch & bitch, and we watched How I Met Your Mother. It was great - although the other two were a lot quicker than I was. I still haven't finished my scarf!

ps. I LOVE Cirque. My mom even emailed me a job opening in the set design team - so I'm applying as we speak!

AmyB said...

Who knew knitting could bring so many people together?? This is great! I LOVE meeting new friends. My most recent is my florist from my wedding...I am so lucky it was that easy!! :o)

MamaBear said...

So so happy to hear all that!

Also, Cirque is awesome. The first (and so far only) time I went, I cried. (yes, me.)

'Megan' said...

fantastic story

KennethSF said...

Wow, this works out so well for a platonic blind date that began unassumingly. Can I have your mom set me up with someone in San Francisco too (I don't knit, though)? ;-)

~ martha ~ said...

I miss you.
If we are ever in the same country I will be a knitting geek with you.

Anonymous said...

Would be kinda nice if your going to blog, that you post more than once a month.

Maybe I am wrong....

Melissa said...

Hi, I'm new to your blog and so glad I came across it!! Although I'm still in the "loser on the couch on a Friday night doing crochet/beading/embroidery with the tv on and the cat clawing my legs... hey, at least that's some kind of action! But I'm suddenly inspired!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

bluesoup said...

hey lady, what's new with you? I'm missing my Sarah updates! Hope all is well with you my lovely x

Anonymous said...

yeah...please update!

Peach said...

hey girlie - wassup? miss you - give us an update soon xxx

hollly said...

You okay?

 

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