~Friday, June 17, 2011


One of the things I enjoy about being an anonymous blogger is that when I'm feeling like a loser, I don't have to put on a brave face. I can detail all the ways in which I feel like a loser.

With that said, I received several e-mails from people asking if they needed to confiscate my shoelaces, so I apparently I write about feeling like a loser very well. I'm feeling much better. I had a good wallow. I felt sorry for myself. But then I got up Monday morning and went to work.

Whatever I wore to work Monday—I think it was blue jeans and a knitted black top—someone stopped me and told me how skinny I had gotten and how in shape I looked. That helped. Then I wore a magenta shift dress and no less than five people stopped me and told me how gorgeous it was and a man at Subway said I looked pretty. That helped too. Today I'm wearing a white lace dress and someone already stopped me and told me it was pretty. Point is, there are far more kind people in my life than the two who had hurt my feelings.

Schmoozer's bestie has been in regular contact with me; I receive texts and e-mails from him every couple of days. So even though he isn't attracted to me, I've still made a new friend.

I've made friends with a couple of girls from my spring team and they came out with me Saturday at my invitation, so I have that. And I also have the new team I'm joining this summer. Those people are the highest quality of people I've met by far. They are also a few years older than me, if that says anything. Most are in their mid-thirties so the quotient for drama, I'm hoping, is diminished.

I also decided not to play with my spring team again. I contacted the company and they were able to issue me a refund. That means I won't have to play with Nameless Teammate. I think it's best that I remove myself from that situation for the time being.

So I'll be playing on a new night with a new team and a chance to meet a whole other circle of people.

Lesson number one: don't sleep with any of them.


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j said...

If there was a like button for this post I would click it. I am glad that your spirits have lifted.

The blogging friends that I have made amaze me with their concern and kindness.

bluemoon said...

Good for you, it sounds like things are feeling a bit better for you. We all have those moments!

Erin said...

Sounds like you sorted everything out wonderfully.

Nicole C. said...

Hooray for lesson number one!
Glad you're feeling better about things.

Lpeg said...

haha I like lesson number one. Just remember, it was only a lesson, not a rule ;)

Have fun this summer. I'm glad you were able to get out of the other league - less to worry and think about.

Yay kickball!

preciousandpriceless said...


on your side...

following your lead...i'm finding my bootstraps as we speak!

and i can't wait to anonymously blog all about it...and possibly work on my spelling :D

Anonymous said...

Glad you're feeling better. Just remember your inner beauty is your real strength, and while everyone loves compliments and the lift they give, your best defense against feeling like a loser (especially based on other peoples opinions) is loving your insides and working on your inner strength as much as your physical strength.

Bathwater said...

I wasn't worried you are too strong to stay down for the count...and wear sandals in the summer.

breezyallatsea said...

I'm glad things are getting better!

herrabidglow said...

I'm glad you're feeling better. We all have those moments.

J said...

So glad you are feeling better. And definitely a good thing that you will no longer be on the same team as Nameless Teammate- sometimes the best thing to do is to just remove yourself from toxic situations.

Charlotte said...

It's a good thing you are such a strong, positive woman, and that you refuse to let the events of your recent past cloud your happiness. And I'm glad you've removed yourself from this team you were on--you don't need that kind of negativity in your life right now. Best of luck going forward--I see all good things in your future :)


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